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Finding your place of peace

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Hi, I’m Tim.

Diagnosed with stage 4, metastatic prostate cancer on July 7, 2015. PSA 120. Gleason score 9. Lesions in right femur (thigh bone) and left seventh rib.

Those of you with a maths brain might have already calculated that was nearly seven years ago. In that time, I’ve had early chemotherapy (docetaxel, six cycles at three-week intervals) with concurrent hormone therapy (Zoladex), targeted radiation, ongoing intermittent hormone therapy, and have undergone a TURP (transurethral resection of the prostate). I think it’s fair to say I’ve been through the ringer.

I was told at the beginning of this “journey”, I could expect five years of reasonable health, that six would be “exceptional”. And yet here I am nearly seven years on, at 57, largely asymptomatic, still surfing, writing, being a dad and a husband. I’ve had my share of dark days and the stress and anxiety has taken a toll on my marriage, my family, my ability to earn a living and sense of social connection. But I’m still here and, for the most part, life is good.

For those of you living through a similar experience, I don’t need to tell you how challenging this all can be. But I have learnt a lot along the way that has not just made life bearable, but meaningful, rich, fulfilling. That’s not to say I don’t still have down days, but they are increasingly outnumbered by days I feel profoundly grateful, content, thrilled to be alive at all. What I’d like to do here is present a few of the hormone therapy life hacks that have helped me not just keep my head above water, but find joy and peace in these strangest of circumstances.

My approach is probably best summed up in this handy, self-care mantra. Remember to take your M.E.D.S.

  • Meditation
  • Exercise
  • Diet
  • Sleep

These are the four pillars of my self-care, in no way designed to replace, but rather to complement conventional therapies.

Meditation is the foundation of this approach. The ability to cultivate a clear mind, to be able to drop into a place of mental quiet and stillness, to silence the cycling anxieties and uncertainties of a cancer diagnosis, is priceless. There’s nothing terribly mysterious about meditation – in essence it’s about quietening the intellectual mind, or what Buddhists call the “monkey mind”, constantly jumping from one thought to the next. This is done by focusing on the breath moving in and out of the nostrils and, depending on what meditation tradition you practice, may include repeating a mantra, visualisation or noticing subtle sensations in the physical body. I practice Vipassana meditation, but I don’t think it matters what technique you practice, they all share the same core element of quietening the mind.

Think of a clear mind like a blue sky and your thoughts as clouds. The blue sky still exists even when obscured by clouds. We can quietly observe the clouds as they drift by without cursing or identifying with them, and eventually the clear blue sky re-appears. My meditation practice feels like this. I don’t instantly drop into some transcendental bliss state or see rainbows and unicorns. But I do at times access a state of “no mind” where everything drops away, the clouds part and only a subtle vibration or hum is left that can be deeply comforting.

There are many different guided meditation apps and YouTube clips and CDs available, but part of its beauty is that meditation is essentially free and just requires your time and patience and a commitment to a daily practice to reap the benefits. Find a comfortable sitting position, cross-legged on a cushion on the floor or in a chair, or even lying down if you prefer (but be warned, you may well fall asleep), and simply focus on your breath. A guided Yoga Nidra meditation is a great place to start, scanning and relaxing the body from head toe. If the mind wanders, gently bring it back to the breath without becoming frustrated.  Over time the moments of quiet will expand, from five breaths to 10, from one minute to five minutes to half an hour, leaving you refreshed and able to face the challenges of the day with calmness.

Studies have found significant improvements in mood, memory, cognitive function and reductions in levels of the stress hormone cortisol, from just eight weeks of daily meditation, and changes to the brain that are visible in MRI scans.

I generally sit twice a day, morning and night, for anywhere from 30 to 45 minutes each time. But as little as 15 to 20 minutes a day can still bring profound benefits.

In coming weeks I’ll unpack a few of the other hormone therapy life hacks that have helped me, in the hope they can help you too.

Reference

Singleton O, Hölzel BK, Vangel M, Brach N, Carmody J and Lazar SW (2014) Change in brainstem gray matter concentration following a mindfulness-based intervention is correlated with improvement in psychological well-being. Front. Hum. Neurosci. 8:33. doi: 10.3389/fnhum.2014.00033


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About the Author

Tim Baker is an award-winning author, journalist and storyteller specializing in surfing history and culture, working across a wide variety of media from books and magazines to film, video, and theatre. Some of his most notable books include “Occy”, a national bestseller and chosen by the Australia Council as one of “50 Books You can’t Put Down” in 2008, and “The Rip Curl Story” which documents the rise of the iconic Australian surf brand to mark its 50th anniversary in 2019. Tim is a former editor of Tracks and Surfing Life magazines. He has twice won the Surfing Australia Hall of Fame Culture Award.

Tim was diagnosed with stage 4, metastatic prostate cancer in 2015 with a Gleason score 9. He was told he had just five years of reasonable health left, but seven years on, at 57, he’s still surfing, writing, and enjoying being a dad. His latest book, Patting The Shark, also documents his cancer journey and will be published in August. Tim will be sharing weekly insights into his journey to help other men who have also been impacted by prostate cancer.


Help is Available

Prostate Cancer Specialist Telenursing Service

If your life has been impacted by prostate cancer, our Specialist Telenursing Service is available to help. If you would like to reach out to the PCFA Prostate Cancer Specialist Telenurse Service for any questions you have about your prostate cancer experience, please phone 1800 22 00 99 Monday - Friday 9am - 5pm, Wednesday 10am-8pm (AEST).

Prostate Cancer Support Groups

PCFA is proud to have a national network of affiliated support groups in each state and territory of Australia consisting of men and women who have a passion for assisting others who encounter prostate cancer. This network is made up of over 170 affiliated groups who meet locally to provide one-to-one support, giving a vision of life and hope after treatment. Call us on 1800 22 00 99 to find your local group.

MatesCONNECT Telephone-based peer support

MatesCONNECT is a telephone-based peer support program for men affected by prostate cancer. If you’ve recently been diagnosed with prostate cancer, our MatesCONNECT service can connect you to a trained volunteer who understands what you’re going through. All of our volunteers have been through prostate cancer. Simply call us on 1800 22 00 99 to be connected with a volunteer.

Newly diagnosed? or need to find more information? Access the PCFA resources here.

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